Graduation Speech
Umm… hello! It is a pleasure to be up here giving a speech in front of you guys, my fellow Aulticians. We’ve spent a year together… a year of existentialism, vocab, and nonconsensual brain rape. We arrive here, in the final week of our high school journey, to share our experiences. Maybe it’s just me, but I think that’s pretty cool.
My first few years were heavily academic, and although they did get progressively better, they don’t measure up to my senior year. I think all of you can agree with me on the fact that this year was the best by far. It was enlightening, liberating, and overall more social than any other year. For me though, senior year was life changing. I came into the year feeling as if nothing had changed, but then a series of events happened and my reactions to them and the choices I made came to define me as a person.
Things were all set in motion by my conversations with an adult acquaintance of mine, Pat. I met Pat during my freshman year, and he was a really chill and awesome sort of teacher. He was one of the few teachers I’ve had that I added on facebook, and he was one of the even fewer that accepted my friend request. Now that may seem weird and unimportant, what I’m about to say may seem completely unrelated, and what I’m saying right now may be confusing you even more, but bear with me here. So a couple years later a buddy of mine from the internet talks me into buying a game called Starcraft II with him at the midnight release. At the time I had absolutely no idea what the game was about, whether or not I’d enjoy it, or why I was spending $60 on it, but I did. I get home and fire it up a few weeks later only to notice there was an add facebook friends feature. Guess who it picks up: my old teacher Pat from freshman year. I get really excited because this really cool teacher that I almost forgot about plays video games, specifically this one, and in all my excitement I ran off to facebook to see how he’s been all this time. Now here is when the story picks up: I get to this guy’s profile and see that his entire wall is links to gay rights news articles. This was shocking because at this point in my life I had known that I was gay for awhile, but I really hated myself for it and denied the fact to myself at every opportunity. Here was someone that I knew in real life and looked up to, someone who was not only gay, but also capable of speaking of it and accepting it and whatnot. It took me a few weeks of nervousness before I manned up and sent him a message. For the next few nights we talked, although it was mostly me monologue’ing about how bad I felt about myself and how ashamed I was. I couldn’t even call myself gay initially, as if those three letters were the hardest thing in the world to type. A listening ear can be the only thing you need sometimes, though. Once I got it all out there I felt better about myself. He gave me a lot of pushes in the right direction, too: away from self-hating mindsets and instead towards self-acceptance.
After a few weeks of talking Pat told me of National Coming Out day, the upcoming Tuesday, October 11. I got really panicky. It was too soon. I didn’t think I could do it. When it finally rolled around I was nervous as hell all day. I couldn’t think straight. After 5 periods of a back and forth “I think I can,” “No, I can’t” I talked to Cameron about it. He gave me some advice, namely that I should take baby steps and save telling the most important people for last because that’s the most difficult. It was good advice, but I didn’t follow it. That day after school I told my mom. She started crying and I guess it was contagious because I started crying too. We hugged for whatever length of time it took for me to stop crying and start wondering when the hug would end, because holy cow. It was at least five minutes.
In the weeks and months that followed I managed to tell a handful of friends. All of them were really cool about it, and I was honestly surprised that nothing changed at all. They were still my friends. I guess I had expected everyone to leave me and for me to get beat up and to spontaneously combust or something, but none of that happened. Nobody cared. It took a lot of courage, and I was really scared, but I told my dad eventually. He was silent for a long while, but then he made it clear that he still loved me and that he had absolutely no idea how being gay works (he thought he could “show me what I was missing” to change my mind).
Awhile later I changed the little “interested in” section of my profile on facebook to ‘Men’. I made a second facebook account so that I could play around with the settings to make absolutely sure that facebook wouldn’t make an announcement of it. I figured that the people who needed to know would see it, and the people who didn’t need to know wouldn’t be digging through my profile in the first place, but I was wrong. I think in the month or two I had that up, only 2 people actually saw it. In the meantime people were still making assumptions about me, because everyone is straight until otherwise stated for whatever awful reason. So I go and draw a picture. And then I went and posted this picture to facebook. In case you haven’t already seen it, here it is.

It has 106 likes and 91 comments. The feedback was overwhelmingly positive.
Now you most likely aren’t gay, but I’m sure there’s an aspect about yourself that you hide. Maybe you’re ashamed of it. Or maybe you just tend to bottle up your feelings. If I’ve learned anything from my experiences in high school, I’ve learned that each and every person in this room, in this school, and on this planet is different. Difference, for whatever reason, is an intimidating thing. There is an overwhelming pressure to hide your difference, to feel that you belong. Lying to yourself and others in the interest of conformity is a very easy thing to do, and as scary as it is, it often happens unconsciously. I’d like to tell you all that there is absolutely no reason to pretend to be something you’re not so that you feel like you belong, because if there’s one thing that we all have in common, it’s our difference. As we graduate in the days to come, I hope you all leave with a little piece of this speech. If there’s anything that you take away from this, I hope it’s the knowledge that it’s okay to be yourself.